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My boyfriend doesn’t seem to be really drawn to sex and I am going insane, what do I do?

The best thing is to communicate with him on the subject. Perhaps he doesn’t know how much it’s affecting you, or he might not even know there’s a problem at all. It’s all about conveying your wants and desires. However, if it simply is that it’s something he’s not drawn to and there’s been no change with that even after you’ve spoken to him, it could be something that won’t ever change. Sexual urges and desires are like any other matter of taste; you can’t just will yourself to be into something that doesn’t engage you. It could be that he is not a sexually motivated person at all, so there may be nothing that could be done or changed (think of it a bit like trying to force someone to be sexually engaged when they can’t be in the same way as someone trying to stop you from being a sexual person, it just wouldn’t be right or fair). But still, it all falls back to communication and figuring out what will work for you both and what won’t. 

Came across 2 authors who had some nice tease and denial in their work –  Lora Leigh and Gianna Simone. Do you have any other suggestions – aside from yourself?(I think your stories are super-hot too!!) It’s so hard to find T&D that isn’t violent or degrading (not into that myself). Also, what do you find the most effective in teasing/torturing a woman? Love stories where the man is tongue-fucking the woman-never experienced it, but imagine it must be super frustrating.

 Hopefully, some readers may also find some enjoyment in looking up such content, too, as there is not all that much genuinely good tease and denial that I have found, so the more that can be found, the better.

I think the most effective is being able to tease without even touching… just letting someone feel my breath against their thighs while whispering exactly what I want to do to them and letting them think for a moment how it will feel when my lips finally press right where they want it. The mental tease that goes along with the physical. I plan to write some first-person accounts of sessions etc (with a bit of a fantasy element to the scenarios as opposed to just a regular account of it) that should give some nice insight into what I personally enjoy most in those moments and what I find most effective.

Your work has brought back my love for myself and I cannot thank you enough! The stories, the gifs you choose to create for them, your voice when you make the audio teases, nothing in a long time has turned me on so much and I want you to know how much i appreciate the effort you put in to identifying our fantasies and erotic thoughts. I have looked for so long for posts and blogs that celebrate female sexuality and have bondage that is not degrading or painful looking so it was a joy to find yours. please dont stop doing what you do! 

Thank you for the message. Nothing is better in life than being able to ignite the imagination of others; I will not stop as long as I am able to create such content. Thank you also to all the similar messages received. I’m sorry that I can’t post them all, but it means a lot to receive them. So, thank you all.